Tuesday, February 28, 2006

Have you ever felt like you've been married even if you're single?
Have you ever heard of a marriage like this? Well, you know that I know that you know someone like this. Read on.....

The Marriage made in Heaven became Hell! (and back again)

Have you ever heard the story about Miss I Wish that married Mr. If Only? Well, I Wish and If Only met one day and fell in love. They both had wonderful and lofty dreams. They just knew they had a future together! They were energized and life was lively and interesting and they shared many an intimate dance in a star-studded night.

After they were married, the years passed and Mr and Mrs Someday had their family. The first of their children was Whiney. Whiney beaks off all the time in the most irritating voice until he gets angry at the whole world! Angry is the next child. Boy, he is a number! It's very hard to be around him because you never know when he will blow up or what he's angry at! Some think that Whiney and Angry are twins because they both get whiney and angry interchangably! Angry followed right on the heals of Whiney but it's obvious to one and all they sure share the same gene pool!

Next was our little (ahem,) "accidents". Along came Forget It and right after that was indeed the twins I Will When & Later. Forget it would just like to do just that so she always tries to disappear but you can NEVER take a snapshot of our family dynamics without her because she's there every time! She never misses.

I will When & Later are who we hear from the most often. Endlessly, those two girls seem to have the most dreams of anybody, but they are always in the future for some reason. Can you imagine? The dreams never materialize! It's all too easy to ignore the twins and their constant dreams. They really should have been named Good Intentions But Never Made It . How can you tell they look like their Mother I Wish!

I Wish and If Only still love each other but realize they have lost their dreams, their energy, and their hope is dwindling. Their household is a cacaphony of anger, whines, wishes and regrets. They need help! One day, they found out that they could get some help to change their perspectives. They had to be willing for hard work, make a committment to change, and work on new habits all the time. They knew they could only achieve change if they had help from the coaching fairy!

They were approved for adoption by the coaching fairy, and the whole family has changed with the arrival of Loving Care and Fun & Laughter. They are a delight to have in the home and everyone has first hand experience at learning and understanding that love comes in many ways for each of us, - toward each other and for ourselves as well. You can only imagine at this point what this change has done for our family.

With the adoption of such special coaches, we have changed our family name to The Happys. (pssst! Forget It became Forget Me Not, and she takes all the family pictures now!)

If any of these family members have a place in your heart, you need the coach fairy in your life. Call now for a sprinkle of fairy dust! The bottle is always full.


Written by Donna Colter PN, B.Sc.(H.Ec.), founder of Reach The Top Coaching. She is a laughter coach for women in transition and is the author or several articles both serious and silly. Donna can be reached in Canada at 403-285-6596, and by email at
A1Coach@telus.net or, by adding a comment here on this blog.

9 comments:

Velma Gallant, The Queen of JOY! said...

What a wonderful article, Donna! I thoroughly enjoyed it. Very valuable.

Warmly,

Velma

Anonymous said...

Hi Donna,

Good job. This is really clever. You got the point across very nicely. Nice to have some humor. I can say that because I always seem to forget. I'm going to try and remember you so I remember to put in some laughter from now on!
My best to you and your 'laughing' site. Hope you laugh all the way to the bank!

Love, Tricia Andrews

Anonymous said...

This is a demonstration of a unique sense of humour which can make a difference in the way we see the world and helps us face the challenges in a more positive and constructive way.

You definitely bring laughter in people's lives (which is very much needed nowadays) from the very first contact they have with you and this story is a real proof!!

Women in transition are very lucky to have a "fairy" like you around.

Keep on spreading your wit.
Elenitsa

Anonymous said...

Donna,

You are a blessing. I am always wishing for people to have more love and laughter in there lives and you bring laughter in all that you do. YOU GO GIRL !!!

Donna said...

Thank-you all, for your encouragement and flattery. It will get you everywhere with THIS fairy!!

On a more somber note, I recently read that worry is the darkroom where negative thoughts develop. How sad and how true.

I have been blessed so much that it was in my young adult years that I really got it that I was wasting my time and energy in worrying about events, feelings, what ifs, etc that I had no control over anyway.

There seems to be plenty to worry about you say. Yes, that's true but think of it.... if you take control of your life, plan some goals that will move you towards your desires, work towards that, then what have you to worry about if you are doing the work? And if you're not doing the work, worry wont fix it, wont help it, but it will only waste your time and drag you down with negative thoughts when you could be reassessing your goals and steps,doing the work, and have a healthy upbeat attitude in the process.

Consider this: Worry is only negative and increases your negative vibrations, which in turn, continues on a downward spiral. It is a darkroom. So, let some light in, take charge of your life, and create some positive energy in your life that will only bring you up perhaps from the depths of despair and onto a new playing field that is not only positive, but rewarding as well.

Juanita said...
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Juanita said...

Donna,
This is brilliant! You are a stand up comedian!

Recently I made a mistake that made me laugh so hard, I actually have never laughed that hard in my entire life.

It was great to have something bring that out in me. Laughter is a healer.

Thanks for sharing this fun blog!

Juanita
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Anonymous said...

That all sounds great Donna. In an imaginary world. You didn't explaing how to bring yourself out of the darkest hole. How do you start to climb out. If your world has become so negative and empty that even a simple trip to the store can end in frustration and anger. How do you see the positive in that. I have no idea where my laughter went. I used to be spontaneous and fun. Now I am just a drag full of bitterness and envy. I try to snap out of it, But when you are alone and angry with no one around to pull you out, How do you find the rope to pull yourself out??

Donna said...

Dear Anonymous:

Thanks for your post. I hear the saddness in your heart and my heart goes out to you because I understand some of what you speak. The pit of lonliness, negativity, and frustration is where I was at in the beginning of my menopause experience. It's for this very reason that I am choosing to coach women in the transition of menopause.

You understand that there is no one else to pull you out of the pit, but I believe that you also know that the only way to get out, and stay out will come from within you. You will have to do the work, but there are indeed some hands to help you. Keep searching for what fits for you.

There are community services and professionals that require you to do the reaching out and there are some things you can do all by yourself for yourself.

Reaching out? You have already commented in this blog. For that, I honour you. Reaching out by blog, by letter, by phone are all good ways to connect initially. Could you also connect with a Dr or alternative health care professionals to be assessed for balancing within the body. This is just part of the start to take care of yourself.

By yourself? I would suggest that you get out everyday for a 20 minute walk. Take your time but take note of all the nature around you and enjoy it's abundance and glory.

Just once today, could you fake a laugh? Say Ho,Ho,Ha Ha Ha three times! Do it! Repeat it three times now. I know you feel silly, but if you can do this every day for a week, you may end up laughing at how foolish you feel and how silly this is but laughter is very healing. It's also closely connected with the saddness you feel.

I would love to serve you in any way I can so keep in touch.

I'm only the Queen of Laughter because I learned to laugh again!